Feminism and Femininity
How feminism destroyed real men
16:27pm 4th August 2006
From: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=398998&in_page_id=1879
...I am a true feminist, because I only want to be with a powerful and capable woman. No sexist could cope with having a wife as intelligent and independent as mine.
Our relationship would never have worked had I been an effete New Man, desperately wanting to sympathise with the female condition.
My wife would have grown to loathe me for my fawning cowardice. She is a warrior and she needs to be with someone who is a match for her. Knowing the limits of what I will deal with in a relationship, I maintain my self-respect and, accordingly, gain hers.
Men are now generally terrified of women. They hold their tongues for fear of being misinterpreted as sexist; they constantly attempt to secondguess their partner in order to avoid giving offence.
They preen themselves with groaning shelves full of beauty products so they won't incur derision and scorn. They suppress their masculinity and present themselves as cuddly Mr Nice Guys, and won't project self- confidence in case it's regarded as unreconstructed machismo.
This backfiring feminist conspiracy has, of course, developed hand in hand with the march of raging political correctness in Britain. The two have combined like some potent chemical reaction to explode in the faces of a generation of women who thought that a 'moulded' man would make for a desirable one.
In recent years, men have been trained like circus seals to be inoffensive to women, and no longer know how to entice them and turn them on.
But women secretly long for a man with swagger, who is cocky and selfassured and has the cheek to stand up them and make fun of their feminine foibles.
They long for the rakish charm of a man who knows there's a whole ocean of fish out there, who isn't afraid of being himself in case he is rejected.
The truth is, a real man doesn't care what any woman thinks of him. He doesn't care what anyone thinks of him: he answers solely to his spirit.
Real men don't pretend or even try to understand women. They simply love them for being the mysterious, capricious creatures that they are. And they don't take them too seriously, either. They know the vicissitudes of the female mind, its constant insecurities and the fluctuations in mood....
It seems to me that although I'm inclined to agree with this man, I don't appreciate being condescended to. I'm by no means a feminist, but his later comment on controlling women by orgasm is disgusting. Must we choose between men like this, who seem reasonable but are freaks and namby pamby liberal whiners?
Most of the women I know here at University prefer wimpy types. One of my friends said "heroin-addict chic with a touch of emo" is what she wanted in a man. That, and someone to buy her things. I've never been one of those, or if I were, it was for a very short time.
My fiance is nothing like Nirpal Dhaliwal's stereotype of the "new man," yet he is patient with my silliness and, on occasion, nastiness. He takes everything I say seriously. If he does not always take it literally, then he takes its tone seriously, and well he might, because I am right 95% of the time.
I don't pretend to be emotionless, but I don't cry at sappy movies. I would be disappointed if my fiance did. I don't bring him into drama. In fact, my life is fairly dramaless.
Best of all, conversation is by far the single most enjoyable part of our relationship. Its also how we spend about 80% of our time together. Being able to approach eachother as intellectual equals is important to us. Even so, I don't pretend to be equal to him in every way. His bravery is notable--he's an army veteran (volunteer,) a former sniper, and a holder of a PHD in English Literature. Do these things need to be mutually exclusive? Can a man be strong and secure in his masculinity while allowing himself to feel the humanity in Phaeto? Certainly!
All I'm saying with this is really....Jack Bauer anyone?
16:27pm 4th August 2006
From: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=398998&in_page_id=1879
...I am a true feminist, because I only want to be with a powerful and capable woman. No sexist could cope with having a wife as intelligent and independent as mine.
Our relationship would never have worked had I been an effete New Man, desperately wanting to sympathise with the female condition.
My wife would have grown to loathe me for my fawning cowardice. She is a warrior and she needs to be with someone who is a match for her. Knowing the limits of what I will deal with in a relationship, I maintain my self-respect and, accordingly, gain hers.
Men are now generally terrified of women. They hold their tongues for fear of being misinterpreted as sexist; they constantly attempt to secondguess their partner in order to avoid giving offence.
They preen themselves with groaning shelves full of beauty products so they won't incur derision and scorn. They suppress their masculinity and present themselves as cuddly Mr Nice Guys, and won't project self- confidence in case it's regarded as unreconstructed machismo.
This backfiring feminist conspiracy has, of course, developed hand in hand with the march of raging political correctness in Britain. The two have combined like some potent chemical reaction to explode in the faces of a generation of women who thought that a 'moulded' man would make for a desirable one.
In recent years, men have been trained like circus seals to be inoffensive to women, and no longer know how to entice them and turn them on.
But women secretly long for a man with swagger, who is cocky and selfassured and has the cheek to stand up them and make fun of their feminine foibles.
They long for the rakish charm of a man who knows there's a whole ocean of fish out there, who isn't afraid of being himself in case he is rejected.
The truth is, a real man doesn't care what any woman thinks of him. He doesn't care what anyone thinks of him: he answers solely to his spirit.
Real men don't pretend or even try to understand women. They simply love them for being the mysterious, capricious creatures that they are. And they don't take them too seriously, either. They know the vicissitudes of the female mind, its constant insecurities and the fluctuations in mood....
It seems to me that although I'm inclined to agree with this man, I don't appreciate being condescended to. I'm by no means a feminist, but his later comment on controlling women by orgasm is disgusting. Must we choose between men like this, who seem reasonable but are freaks and namby pamby liberal whiners?
Most of the women I know here at University prefer wimpy types. One of my friends said "heroin-addict chic with a touch of emo" is what she wanted in a man. That, and someone to buy her things. I've never been one of those, or if I were, it was for a very short time.
My fiance is nothing like Nirpal Dhaliwal's stereotype of the "new man," yet he is patient with my silliness and, on occasion, nastiness. He takes everything I say seriously. If he does not always take it literally, then he takes its tone seriously, and well he might, because I am right 95% of the time.
I don't pretend to be emotionless, but I don't cry at sappy movies. I would be disappointed if my fiance did. I don't bring him into drama. In fact, my life is fairly dramaless.
Best of all, conversation is by far the single most enjoyable part of our relationship. Its also how we spend about 80% of our time together. Being able to approach eachother as intellectual equals is important to us. Even so, I don't pretend to be equal to him in every way. His bravery is notable--he's an army veteran (volunteer,) a former sniper, and a holder of a PHD in English Literature. Do these things need to be mutually exclusive? Can a man be strong and secure in his masculinity while allowing himself to feel the humanity in Phaeto? Certainly!
All I'm saying with this is really....Jack Bauer anyone?
posted by Conservotarian Emmy at 12:43 PM
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